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One ask specific estions Limerence is the term sed by "Tennov To Differentiate Falling Being In Love From What Is "to differentiate falling being in love from what is then referred to as real love the long term affection of a companionate bond Not that there is anything nreal about the intense experience of limerence as many most of Rodeo Daughter us would know but it can benrealistic if the feelings aren t returned It can also transform over time into real love if the feelings are mutual I suppose that many of My Guilty Pleasure (Harlequin Blaze us would have already differentiated between the two states even if there s been some confusion about how they relate to each other if at For having been originally publis. Having the experience that I was describing marked a turning point By the time of a second formal paper in 1977 I had arrived at the conceptions found in Love and Limerence and had begun to write the book The third phase began with the publication of Love and Limerence It was the Phase of Confirmation Love and Limerence was based largely on interviews that exposed the weakness of paper and pencil assessments The words of love admitted of different meanings New data in the form of voluntary written testimonials poured in from readers of the book Many of these letterssed the same words What you describe is exactly what happened to me Others thanked me for allowing them to know that they were not alone that as crazy as the condition was it was not a sign of mental ill health but a normal phenomenon The state was one of madness but the person Fatal Secrets (Protecting the Witnesses undergoing the experience was not necessarily mad In hindsight it should not seem surprising to the human nature scientist that there should be built intos through evolution control over reproductive functioning that *supercedes other motivations according to what i refer *other motivations According to what I refer as Limerence Theory limerence is an interaction between the feelings of one person and the actions of another It appears to occur across sexual racial age cultural and other categories of humans and it endures as long as do the conditions that sustain it When intense it crowds other motives out of the psyche It should be noted that Limerence is not synonymous with meanings customarily attached to the term infatuation Further and most importantly it is entirely absent in some relationships and in some people Finally in my judgment both limerence and nonlimerence represent normal functioning Limere. .
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Should be reading for high school Although It would probably be better to write a version FOR high school Lots of behavioural paradigms from psychology are like witchcraft metaphors apparently This book helps dispel the phlogiston Part of me wishes this book consisted of only chapters 1 through 4 and 8 Or maybe those were just the parts I was interested in I found the evolutionary theories and Tennov s analysis of society a bit off at times Nevertheless this is a good book worth reading Perhaps not to find conclusions about the subject matter this book is old and was the *first of its kind but to create awareness and make. Author Dorothy *of its kind but to create awareness and make. Author Dorothy PhD on Love and LimerenceIt was over 35 years ago that having become convinced through personal experience and the writings of others of the enormous significance of that aspect of the human reproductive process known as romantic love I elected to explore the subject systematicallyMy journey of exploration occurred in three identifiable phases During the first phase the Phase of Wandering and Wondering Through A Wanted Man (Silhouette Intimate Moments, uestionnaires and Testimonials I was primarily involved in other topics but the love cards assessments in which students anonymously selected statements that applied to them and rejected those that did not and the paper and pencil surveys submitted to groups continued to supply evidence of the importance of the topic and of its prevalence but I had not advanced beyond Shakespeare innderstanding Toward the end of that first phase my emphasis had begun to shift from answers to My Spy (Mission: Impassioned, uestions posed by an investigator to the collection of personal testimonies those of volunteers as well as those of published autobiographers novelists and historians Transition to the second phase the Phase of Limerence was abrupt It happened in the fall of 1973 Earlier that year I had presented the first formal paper on the subject at the meetings of the American Psychological Association That paper titled Sex differences in romantic love among college students was based entirely onestionnaire results There were sex differences in pencil and paper reports but as I was later to learn examination of the details of the experience revealed sex similarities than differences in the phenotypical experience The discovery later that year of people who had not did not and apparently could not imagine themselves.
Hed in 1979 as I read this book I kept thinking to myself why didn t anyone give me this book earlierThis is an essential read for anyone who *has ever felt that they have abnormally strong feelings for other people especially when they didn *ever felt that they have abnormally strong feelings for other people especially when they didn want to This book explained my life More particularly it explained a phenomenon that has occurred in my life time and again for better or worse or aptly for best and for worst and made me realize that while I often act and feel crazy when in love I am neither a bad person nor insane For anyone who finds themselves regularly and Until You Loved Me (Silver Springs, unwillinglynder the spell of another human being check this ou. Nce presents problems for the modern individual causing inattention to other aspects of life especially to responsibilities and to other relationships Limerence for someone other than the spouse is a major cause of marital and family disruption Further the limerent's behavior may hinder rather than enhance a relationship with the desired person if a response in kind does not occur When frustrated limerence may produce such severe distress as to be life threatening People's reaction to Limerence Theory depends partly on their acuaintance with the evidence for it and partly on personal experience People who have not experienced limerence are baffled by descriptions of it and sometimes resistant to the evidence that it exists To such outside observers limerence seems pathological Although often the
subject of romantic poetry and fiction it has been called an addiction an indication of low self esteem irrationalof romantic poetry and fiction it has been called an addiction an indication of low self esteem irrational erotomanic and delusional To people who are nacuainted with it first hand "it inconceivable that any person should assign so much importance to another person Fortunately direct experience is not "inconceivable that any person should assign so much importance to another person Fortunately direct experience is not to someone who reads the evidence There are many scientifically known phenomena that are not directly perceivable Although self report is traditionally regarded with suspicion by scientists reports that are as consistent with one another as these descriptions of limerence are hard to doubt This is a scientific book That it may not seem so is a part of the story itself In finding limerence a human condition distinct yet subject to obfuscation everywhere we enter into new territory the territory of the niversal mental landscape There is much to be found there as others continue the explorati.